welcome to the moment

love is a gift...celebrate it

Thursday, November 29, 2012

sweet places

Find a place like a cupcake shop and have a moment with a few

the dress

a holiday dress makes for a beautiful moment..find a sale or take advantage of the post wedding
season discounts that are now on the racks.

You can find great deals on online. I would even use social media in order to get it done.

post sales

stock up on lights for trees, cards for inviations, and christmas balls for clear vases

Monday, November 26, 2012

Inhouse 101

Find the movie with the lyrics...sing all night long. Anyone know the words to Grease?

Wednesday, November 14, 2012

game day

When you want a moment...

white dress
checkered tights and pink shoes

game board tables on the side

one room situation. Trees for front of cermony.

chest piece as a topper

Tuesday, November 13, 2012

Planning 101


Find a baker by online or yellow pages
See actual pictures
Make they see your vision
Call three references
Cake tasting
Make sure everything is in writing

Monday, November 12, 2012

inhouse date

concert dvd with chocolate theme plates...steak with dark chocolate and mushroom sauce, herb fries,
and chocolate cherry cupakes

Thursday, November 8, 2012

it's a new thing

So simplication in wedding planning......

the dress
a stylish dress is best....rent the runway or get a simple gown

the invitation
white invitation with theremography

the centerpiece
Look at nature and gather or go to the grocerty store....

one tier cake with a dessert for everyone else

Monday, November 5, 2012

inhouse date

red, white, and blue....

Red sequin shorts...white bra...silver shoes...

popcorn, mini burgers, sweet potatoes, mini cupcakes...

Thursday, November 1, 2012


bride shop dresses.....

go with 3 friends or family members
bring simlar shoes
take pictures if you can
walk out the store if you really not sure and come back

Tuesday, October 30, 2012


white turtle neck and jeans with white boots

light blue with black ink and pink bow

cans of tye dye t shirts wrapped around the cans

tye dye cake with a bettle and a couple on a sheet cake

Monday, October 29, 2012

inhouse date

wierd science 1980s movie ......underwear, white shirt and curly wig with red lip and red heels.

food....colorful array or sauces with steak kabobs.....mini cupcakes

Thursday, October 25, 2012



Look at lots of pictures
View actual photo albums
Pay attention if the photographer is professional and is a good fit for your day
Practice in a mirror

Wednesday, October 24, 2012

1940s moment

white inviation

white knee lenght suit and white oxford heels. trailing bouquet.

big band music for the cocktail hour

two tier cake with a sword in a vase surronded by roses

church font by simon holden...freedigtalphotos

Tuesday, October 23, 2012

work out

walk in place and then focus on one thing...legs, thighs or stomach

Monday, October 22, 2012

Inhouse date

love jones

black leather vase with roses, chocolate theme desserts, leather bra and sheer panties

Thursday, October 18, 2012

pole dancing

On Auburn Ave, there is a class, I will try next year..pole dance excercise. Get your skills tight just in case I find the right guy..wink

Wednesday, October 17, 2012


year, I graduated, young and clueless...to be young again

white with silver ink

bride dress
tight white dress with silk mary jane hill in blue silk

blue crystal chandlier with white candles.

cake two tier with silve cd as a topper

r kelly music for your after party

Monday, October 15, 2012

inhouse date

boyz in the hood

put the braids in your head, funky fro, or long weave...jeans, shirt...with your high heels..movie
and creative popcorn..fan blowing. hood love

dancing dj by andy newson..freedigitalpictures.com

Tuesday, October 9, 2012

1980s pumkin

white dress with orange shoes. headband instead veil

pumkin with dried fall flowers glued to the outside of the pumkin

orange cupcakes with candy corn on top

freedigitalpictures...queen victoria
1980s styled waiters in costume for cocktail hour

Sunday, October 7, 2012

lennox cupcakes

Lennox cupackes is a great space for an event because it is affordable and who does not like a sweet moment.

inhouse date

the jettson.....

star wars movie night

white dress..pony tail...gold heels

popcorn....steak wraps and mini cookies

lovers in theatre ohmmyd3d free digital photo

Thursday, October 4, 2012


waterbottle with sand or rocks....when you need to make a set of weights....save that money for shoes.

Wednesday, October 3, 2012

planning 101

Food shows will be bring you food inspiration. Most of these shows have the ideas on the website.

Tuesday, October 2, 2012


white tea length dress

burger and fry bar... with milkshake cocktails

1950s music

stacked records...glued together as a centerpiece

two stacked cake with leather ribbion around each tier

queen victoria statue by tom curtis

Monday, October 1, 2012

inhouse date

concert dvd......a blanket on floor...finger foods...

short shorts...plaid shirt...tyed at the waist

couple enjoying music by imagery majestic

Thursday, September 27, 2012

planning 101

favorite cookbooks for your catering...Go to thelocal library for ideas

Wednesday, September 26, 2012


four week program

week one....walk in place or around neighborhood

week two.....walk in place....50 crunches

week three..walk in place...100 crunches.....50 standup pushups

week four.....run in place for 20 minutes...walk in place for 10....200 crunches...100 standup
push ups...work it out

Tuesday, September 25, 2012

the 1770s

pretty paper, handwritten note

blue dress with red silk heels with feather boquet with blue mini carnation center

bread on a bed of red rose petals

honeybuns covered in fondants....in clear containers stacked in two tiers

Monday, September 24, 2012

inhouse date

time to nuture book.....massage oils....spa supplies for facials...bubble bath....

Thursday, September 20, 2012


v8 soup...... toast
one shake

free food Friday

Tuesday, September 18, 2012


white business suit with side slit....black platform shoes...flower pin on suit

electronic centerpieces on glass cake pedestal...

three tier cake...silver dipped

picture...queen victoria statute by tom curtis

Monday, September 17, 2012

inhouse date

the island.....inhouse date

blanket...island music....

coconut covered wings...
keylime cheesecake

planning 101

one stop shopping.....

links on cake or photographers
a bridal show
craft store

picture..bride and groom rosen georgiev

Saturday, September 15, 2012

the gilded age

white with gold ribbion

gold cup filled with red roses

two tier cake with red roses. have a long umbrella in a planter.

planning 101

for your flower plan, go in nature. Find your favorite park and recreate it.

Thursday, September 13, 2012

the moment...the wedding

So the day starts with a bath and makeup.. Then I pat down my hair which was already done from the day before. In the church, we take pictures.

Then I go down the aisle....my uncle is trying to tip in....I shake my hands and walk down the aisle.
Down aisle, the moment, you have spent a million minutes on is over in 15 minutes. Then up
the ailse, take amillion pictures and hope my eyes are not half close.

To the reception and the head table, r and b playing. I crack jokes to person to person and wished
I had brougt a second dress. All that dress was starting to get on nerves.

yes, I had to go to the bathroom. Where are my bridal party?

Food was great beause I gave him down to the seasoning what I wanted. Then we cut the cake.

Ashy legs and all...the garter comes off. Boquet toss...hits the ceiling. Classic moments for me.

So I had my Victorian moment. I wish I could tell you it ended up like forever but it didn't.  We divorced last year even though we are still rearing my son, mr. AW who is now seven.

That is my story.  Even though it did not last lifetime,I had a moment.

love,peace and soul

Benita Michelle Wheeler

Wednesday, September 12, 2012

The Moment...night before the wedding

So it is the day before you get married....

So I check the dress, call my wedding planner and say, you got it.

The control freak in me still want to call everyone but I didn't. So I ran around, snapped at the groom,
took my one brow and made two eyebrows.

Then I go home, go to the rehersal.

in law vs. my family.. I rolled my eyes....took it out on the groom later. Then I collected all my real and fake flower which were in buckets. We sat around the tables and made my flowers which
were preschool 1-2-3 and I used tussy mussies to make it even easier.

I went to bed....not to sleep between Jasmine and Marquita. And I say what's to a small mouse, but honey, I know this wedding was not going to be the Disney channel. So I was grateful we would have
a planner and security...

yes, throw those mothertuckers out if they start anything......

Tuesday, September 11, 2012

The Moment...the wedding story

So...I put a little red and black dress....with pink grandma panties with my hair looking like a hot mess.

It was my bridal shower. I had the inlaw vs. my family but I hoping for peace.

So....They came, and I was cracking nervous jokes, sounding like a gay male. It was worst than
I thought. We had two worlds, the worlds were not having peace and harmony like I had imagined.
By the middle, I wanted to leave my own shower but I did not.. I stayed and was told about my


We had my side of the family, their side of the family, the neutral side. Ofcourse, my ex sister
in law had her shoes off, who always know how to make herself at home. And did. I wished
she had brought more like her.

I gathered my gifts, brought thank you notes, and wanted to run to the nearest court house.
These mothertuckers were not going to get along.

First step....let's cut this stuff...I did. I cut all the stuff and said keep it short and simple. Ran, not walk, to find my wedding planner to handle the mess which she did.

well, now, it' the night before the wedding...

Monday, September 10, 2012

The Moment.....my wedding story

So winter...became spring.. which is now is summer...

You are sitting in the car with this grand martha stewart idea for invitation, and you looked several pages. Now you agruing about paper when you could have been having the best date of your life.
Somehow the paper is so important. Then you say freak it, get a catalog. Ofcourse, I am now
agruing about stamps...go back..still wrong..freak it...i have a invitation with teddy bear stamps instead of cute hearts that you wanted.

Now, you sitting at the table, with the phone ring...surronded by sheer red ribbion, a bandaid on hand,
paper punch, ......

who? no way. how many? alright....inlaw side...

my side...who? she invitied them. let me call me here. hello? yes, i am sorry about your daughter
there is no more room in the inn....

tuesday...the wedding shower

Thursday, September 6, 2012

this is my reality, my wedding, my wedding planner

So....it Feb....it included v day...and the oscars...

halle berry and denzel washington...a black history moment...

At this point, I going in wedding mode one hour five days of week. It include entering into bridezilla.
I looked for a wedding planner which I could not find but I knew I needed. Gathered catalog for
a invitation. I also made sure all my vendors were alive and well....and still in business, something
most brides never do.

Then it call and I ever I do is talk about this wedding in which your family and friends pretend
they very interested but all they want to do is roll their eyes out of envy or just sheer boredom.

Tough luck...I am still talking about it.

Wednesday, September 5, 2012

this is my reality, my wedding, the wedding planner

So it's holiday season...post September 11. The AJC which was thick as a door became thin as
a dress.  People were going to thrift shops for gifts.

Anyway, I sat at the computer with two wedding books and online planner for my very small wedding.  I was a bride.  I had waited my whole life for that moment. Ofcourse the groom because
he was in nascar,foottball, and country music did not understand why I needed to stand in line
for 30 minutes at a sale to buy two silver candelebras.

I did...

I wanted the have the best wedding....I was in a wedding competion. My wedding was the last one.

Really, folks, the lesson is, if you have to save money.....go to sales, go to thrift for containers.
Get out the competion.  Enjoy the moment and yell at the groom less.

Tuesday, September 4, 2012

the reality, this is my reality, the wedding planner

Things happen in wedding planning. I awakened out of my sleep to the radio.  So the country
was being attacked.  After screaming for a second at the tv, I was on the computer, doing
the one thing told us all not to do which is looking at story after story, watching photograph
after photograph.

That night......the apartment complex silent....

Then next few days, I was on an empyt Marta train with a middle eastern woman, trying to
get a holiday job.

So September 11.....it brought some soul to my wedding. From the wedding magazines to
to online, we adjusted our plans, made it more about family, and some of us, downsized
our budgets.

The budget blogs and websites...this is what came out of September 11. 

For  bride, it change my world, it changed my outlook to bringing more soulful ideas
to the day. It became a moment.

Thursday, August 30, 2012

thi is my reality, the wedding, the wedding planner

So you have to get all your vendors on a budget.....

I was encouraged by a story in Modern Bride magazine. The country was going through Sept 11 and brides were putting down the diamonds and picking up a craft book for a ring.

A sister of the editor was getting married. She married by candlight at her sister, the editor home surrounded by family and friends.  She brought many things on sale.

So.........I went to yellow pages......

geico insurance building
I rented a reception room complete with my lunch.

me, family, and friends..the night before

I went to the mall for my wedding cake. I refused to have a cake that looked great was dry like
corn bread mix. I did not want jiffy corn bread mix  cake.

I found someone who worked at home.

wedding planner
I am a control freak, and I had drama, so, a wedding planner instead of the florist.

the dress
David Bridal

The room was small, I brought my own honey.. DJ Michelle in the house.

Wednesday, August 29, 2012

this is my reality, my wedding, the miniwedding planner


so to cut budget...had candles....3 tier buttercream cake...cut the down 75

dress shopping...I am a complete control freak..... I went dressing by myself.

So i went in grandma underwear..... tried on five dresses...end up with one....

which broke all the wedding rules...petite person in big dress... but I wanted to be a queen and there
at least three more wedding that year. My wedding was going to be the best honey.

three months later...omg....a case of girl scout cookies later. I was too big for my dress. Where is the usher cd?

Tuesday, August 28, 2012

this is my wedding, the reality, the miniwedding planner

So I am sitting in hotlanta...we were living in sin...

Anyway, I sit at the computer, go on the wedding planner site, and put my hopes and dreams in
the spaces. I came out with $30,000.

Target Job plus Webvan Job was not going to equal $30,000 in cash.

I did think about the Amercian Express, Discovery card in the drawer.

Then I realized I wanted a house....oh well.

So I spent all afternoon looking at budget sites, back then, broke ass bride wedding sites
was not there. It was 2000. Party time where everything was dipped in diamonds.

At the evening, I found a budget site.....under $4,000....

You may need a million dollars for an event but not so much for a moment.

Monday, August 27, 2012

this is my wedding....the reality, the miniplanner

So I had a very romantic proposal....

We went to Warner Robins, sat in the car, he gave me a note in  front of the truck he wanted.
He gave me the ring......

I am not going to lie...i remembered the ring...

Anyway, excited, I went home, a family member did my nails.  The next day I showed off my ring to Everyong....


Then I did what every bride does....I brought about five wedding magazines.

Then I realized it was the 1999.......a cake that has real diamonds on it.

my now ex husband......he is known to be a little cheap. My dad, saw my ring and held at the light to see if it was real....laughing

Thursday, August 23, 2012

say cheese

pictures are important. there are many ways get it done.

old school
yourself. get a digital camera or even camera phone.....print it on the computer.

student photographer
get someone and look at their work.

cermony photos only
have the professional to takeyour pictures for the cermony.

Wednesday, August 22, 2012

the fashions

Even though I am cheap, I get joy from going in a thift shop. I do love the fashions. When I was bride, I had more than a hundred dresses. With a family member, I went through the pictures. Big dress moment in white. So what, I told a lie...


big dress
for a average height. If you aren't not...bring attention to neck with a choker.

the fitted gown
A fitted gown that flares at the bottom is a beautiful evening moment. It is great for
well fit body with a bit of curves. You can fake it with padding. Bring layers on the bodice
to hide a tummy with great undergartments.

the mini
The mini is great for cocktail moment or dessert reception. Wear underwear(smiling).

Tuesday, August 21, 2012

beauty on the budget

So maybe you don't have the funds....

go to Avon or mary kay

find makeup counter

beauty schools

Monday, August 20, 2012

creating a moment

When I was getting a married, there were many events...it was overtop time. So when I put in the numbers in the spaces. I knew I was going to redefine what I wanted. Things were cut but moments
were added for free.

My day was beautiful...we had soap opera moment that  many wedding have. Besides, the bold and beautiful moment, it was a great day.

the inspiration
a beautiful piece of art, a romantic novel, or a funny movie

the wedding dress
from a sophiscated suit to rented designer gown

the food
the student caterer to a do it yourself dessert reception

the cake
from one layer heart or just a great dessert from your first date

Share love in having enough chairs, keeping your cermony and recpetion guest friendly,
having enough fans  or portable heaters. Please feed the people.

You may need a million dollars for an event but not so much for a moment.

Benita Michelle Wheeler

Thursday, August 16, 2012

the remix

So.... a year later or even seven years....I think it would be great to have a remix.

Find your favorite restraunt and recite your vows to each other. Then kiss. Share a piece dessert.
Wear something inspired by your day.

Wednesday, August 15, 2012

the after party

The party is for those bride want to get a little more wild in the music or activities or just a more laid back vibe.

choose the place
the best place is  the reception to save cost....have a little cards that explains it at the table.

choose activities
it could be just more hip hop and harder cocktails.

choose the time
All night or four more hours. Provide snacks, even it is only bar snacks.

Tuesday, August 14, 2012

the party

the reception....plan it well

find one online, wor your caterer, family recipes, or ideas from family restr aunt

the music
party all night by the radio and get great ideas

the cake
a cake is a great way to end the moment......it can something elaborate or simple.
you can cut into your favorite dessert.

make sure your guests can still interact with one another.

Monday, August 13, 2012

the plot

A ceremony is a romantic story told to your guest by song , by prose or poetry, and by background.
Be creative

Add dance

Add creative songs that may reveal the first date

Add piece of prose from your favorite romance book, keep it rated G for everyone

Be sure to get the rules from your officant or your wedding or reception site.

Write down the plot and review with the groom.

Thursday, August 9, 2012

the set

The setting means everything for a wedding...

so to get done...you need the following...

front of cermony, ailse decor, and maybe something for the doors. You also must have ailse runner.
Centerpieces, decor for cake table and sign in.

You need great music for cermony and reception and even some romantic music on the way to your

You can also use:

people in costume in a creative manner to serve drinks
lights in trees and unexpected places
candles always provide a romantic glow.

Wednesday, August 8, 2012

the white ailse moment

for many women, their wedding days are one their best fashion moments.

get a dress
6 months in advance of the day

work out
be realistic of your goals...5 days 30 minutes

have a glow
eating citrius. lot of water.

make you get your nails in a neutral color..

look natural....you don't want to walk down the ailse with who are you?


Tuesday, August 7, 2012

the supporting cast

so.....a bride can be the ultimate diva. i was.

i sat down at the computer with pretty paper to write notes which our family and friends found strange for small wedding but to me it is essentil to properly plan a moment. To ask, write down
your requirments, and get a proper response by phone or by mail.

the planner-friend, family, or professional
the honor attedants...maid or matron of honor, best man
cermony -singers, readers,
sign in attendant
gift attendant

Keep everyone updated by twitter or website. Make sure when a person does something extra special to write a thank you note.

be a diva...but be asnice as possible...it is just white ailse moment.

Monday, August 6, 2012

set the stage...the invitation

so...to the set the stage...inivaition...

cardstock card.......ink matches shoes

postcards....of the city......or your favorite art piece

poem....with info in the corner

Thursday, August 2, 2012

the city diva moment

i am more a city baby...i love to have things to do.....even though i like where i live, i do get
excited when i get on Marta

lithonia, it is more a wife with 2.5 kids kind of city when you want to read book and sleep.

short white dress....blue short boots

a square container with...blue rocks...

two tier cake with a camera....

shoe shaped cookies

Wednesday, August 1, 2012

casual moment

When I was a planning my first moment, I saw a wedding in a Martha Stewart book. It took place in NYC. Dreams of saving money and creating simplicity danced in my head.

enjoy a simple moment.

invitation...a letter on pretty paper. a dress....a blue dress silver shoes. a purse with a rose pinned to the purse. food...a buffet room for ten. a cake....a simple dessert with the date of the groom and bride written in sauce on their plate for display purposes.

Tuesday, July 31, 2012

the fairy tale

i am good prissy tom boy...i am not always into the fairy tales...but for those who are, here is your moment.

invitation....white card with a carboard gold shoe tied on ribbion at top of the invite

bride..white dress with sparkling shoes

centerpieces..cermanic castles...on grass

cake.....storybook cake

Monday, July 30, 2012


black dress.red ribbion round the waiste. silver tussy mussy. cake with swords on top

Thursday, July 26, 2012

Tuesday, July 24, 2012

Monday, July 23, 2012

the fashion magazine

invitation....a newsletter. a little black,  blue satin shoes. a purse filled with white roses.  centerpieces
shoes....on the table. cake. a square cake...jewlery box with the jewlery on top.

Thursday, July 19, 2012

the candy game

I think most of sat on the floor and played candy game.  So this is  a great theme for your day.

inviation...white card..ribbion with candy necklace.  dress. white dress and pink shoes. gingerbread place cards. gum drops as topper on a cake.

Wednesday, July 18, 2012


black inviation with silver ink

black dress with silver shoes

old radio

old school music,  diner food recepiton

Tuesday, July 17, 2012

island love

white swimsuit top....white skirt...no shoes.....necklace exchange....finger foods....two tier with coconut

Monday, July 16, 2012

the breakfast club

I am the 80s baby...i have the ripped jean pictures to prove it. Anyway, I love this movie. It covered all the personalities in high school from the geek to the pretty girl rock.

grey inviation with black ink

white jean dress with blue shoes....straw hat with flower pinned on it

rose on mirror with lipstick for table number on mirror

cake table covered in denim cloth...white cake leather or pleather ribbion...cake topper
minischool locker

breakfast for dinner

Thursday, July 12, 2012

sin and sexxy

red dress mini dress. cupcake party. chocolate fountain. sport car arrival. rose in the hair. gold heels for centerpieces.

Wednesday, July 11, 2012

the little black dress

Black is one of my favorite colors I love the idea of litte bllack dress. You can work with a pump and a dress jacket and then just change the shoe and red lip go to an event. You always need the little black dress.

white invitation with black ribbion. wine glass filled with black rocks for a centerpiece with black ribbion tied in a bow at the bottom. white wedding dress with ballet shoe.....black ribbion around
the bouquet. 2 tier cake with black ribbon around each round. a ballet shoe as a cake topper.

Tuesday, July 10, 2012

sex and the city

i am huge fan of sex and city...cute guys and shoes...what is not to love. Anyway, I think this is a great idea for your big day.

white ballroom dress, small white hat with veil. foam covered with flowers as building. cake two with a shoe...chocolate purse favors.......cherry theme.....dessert table.

Monday, July 9, 2012

sports car

red dress.sivler tussy red roses. black leather containers...cherries on stems. chocolate cake....red roses in buttercream. song book sign in.

Friday, July 6, 2012

gold coins

ivory dress with gold coin.....gold colored tiara......pink shoes......centerpiece.....gold glass balls and white candles..oversize cupcake.

Thursday, July 5, 2012

alice and wonderful

every easter, they normally show alice and wonderland...i love the story as this young lady goes on an adventure to get her destination. Love is a lot that way.

blue ink  with a monogram on top

tea reception
find tea cups...filled with simple flowers

tea food

two tier with a tea cup filled with flowers as a topper

Tuesday, July 3, 2012

the red, white, and blue...

red dress...gold heels....crown on head...crown on cake...buffet shared by all...

Monday, July 2, 2012

sin and sexxy reception

red velvet invitation with black ink

red dress with pink roses with red beads in the center.

bud vase with red rose on a mirror with pink candles

glass roses hanging from the ceiling upside down....

two tier cake with chocolate roses....fresh flowers as a topper

Friday, June 29, 2012

pie reception

You walk into a room filled with hospitality. White cloth tables with flowers in wicker baskets. the bride and groom get married in front of a wooden arch with twig gardland. A cake in the corner..basket weave design with wild floweers on the top.  Then a pie table..both savory and sweet. A great do it yourself concept.

Thursday, June 28, 2012

cupcake reception

sweet tooth moment which is a great if you want to it yourself.

bride....pink  dress with a cupcake purse,  tables....with cupcake stands...filled with flowrers...
cake..jumbo cupcake....
international..pick a county set up savory and sweet cupcakes.

Wednesday, June 27, 2012

candy reception

when you are short on funds, consider a candy reception. pots filled with candy. cupcacke..that is slightly hallowed filled with candy....a candy boquet

Monday, June 25, 2012

places for your big day

I found my place in an insurance place with a buffet room.....in the phone book.

Threre are many places to find a great wedding site.....small cupcake shop or bakery, a beautiful boutique, or even a rented house.....

inhouse date

inhouse date......

a blue dress...pink shoes.....a movie.....and popcorn theme meal......take a bake potato...sprinkle a bit of chicken...and popcon on top....drizzle cheese.....add chocolate to popcorn

Friday, June 22, 2012

a fashion moment

Wedding dresses have been many things from a plain brown dress during the victorian age for working class family to a gorgeous white ballroom gown during the 1980s. I love the gown now because brides are breaking the rules and making it about them.

white dress with a shoe
a simple white dress with a poka dot shoe or a little something blue

the white pants suit
the white pantsut with a leopard shoe

the ballroom gown
the strapless ballroom gown with a sparkling shoe

Thursday, June 21, 2012

high heel shoes

i had 1940s white satin shoes fromn ebay...i love them...

high heel shoes...

you can go thrift
you can go online auction
something borrowed....ask friends for a pair
you can ask the groom to provide as your cinderella moment

Tuesday, June 19, 2012

the dress...

where to find it?

bridal networking...they have displays of the actual dresses....

trunk shows..if you look on a bridal website, you can find a great trunk show

mall fashion shows...look on your mall website, to see if they have a moment.

Monday, June 18, 2012

the well thought out reception

I know it is hard, to do...after all the day, is suppose to be about you. A wedding reception is a moment, a sweet celebration shared with family and friends.

cocktail hour or snacks...
as you are taking pictures, provide snacks.

the basics
chairs, tables, clean rest rooms.

cocktails, lunch, brunch. keep in mind th meal hour. If it is not a full meal, you should include that
information on your card.

the bar
cash bars...i don't  like them...if you have them, warn the people with a small card. Try to offer at a house wine, water, and punch.

keep in the mind, your guest list, when you are planning your party.  rated g for everyone as much as possible unless you are having an after party.

Friday, June 15, 2012

the emergency kit

I know you have to have a perfect day, but even in perfect, you may have a few spots. So grab a kid size suitcase or a tackle box for the following items.r

stain remover sticks
extra stockings
minsewing kit
hand sewing machine
tiny nails
clear nail polish

Monday, June 11, 2012


Favors...are great way to add a thank you to your guests.......


flower love

It is peak season but you need flowers.

yellow pages
hire someone great....but look at photographs of actual work. If you are paying for highest packages, ask if you see him or her as she or he works.

next meeting
bring color swatches...ideass....front of ceremony, ailse, centerpieces, guest tables, tables, and cake table

add creative touches
toys, ceremanics, art work, and photographs bring creative touches

Friday, June 8, 2012

say cheese

photography is the one thing you have after everything is throw away and packed up.


find three within your budget

look at acutal albums

make a choice

sign on the dotted line...ask the big questions about extra pictures and the cost of overtime.

Wednesday, June 6, 2012

the menu

Feed the people..

You can find

online, favorite restraunt, classifieds. For smaller events, use a personal chef. Student chef with experience.

favorite recipes, a favorite date, family recipes, or food from a trip.

vegeterian menu if needed. other limiations especially for parents, and honor attendents.

Tuesday, June 5, 2012

the nuts and bolts

A moment still need structure. It is important to get the big decesions out of the way.  Stories,  I have heard are endles...missing officant, i forgot to hire the minster, food ran out, and etc.

nuts and bolts

get a planner
find a dresses
hire a officiant
cermony and reception site
rules for cermony and reception site
maid of honor, best man
wedding party
iniviations and postage

Saturday, June 2, 2012

the dress

the first dress. everyone online said, it would be the one. i tried on five. i ended up ordering the first one.  when i walked down the ailse, i felt like a queen.

give your self six months

take at least 3 photographs with you when you make your appointment

bring your bridal bag...water, battery opered mini fan

move around..walk and dance, sit

read your contract carefully...manufacutering number, dates, extra costs

Thursday, May 31, 2012

The Moment..inhousedate

white with red ink

red crop top and ripped jeans....gold high heel sandles

finger foods..with passion fruit...

Wednesday, May 30, 2012

budget 101

.So...it's was the 1990s...I sat down at the computer and put all my hopes and dreams in a popular wedding online planner. Then I hit the entered button and almost dropped the keyboard.

part time job plus 35000 job did not equal 30000.

So, I research all afternoon, find some hope in a budget wedding site.

David bridal for a dress but you can also rent and get one sewen.

I found aarmark for food. You can find a personal chef if you keep the guests small. Then
you can also hire a student chef.

The cake, it can be the grocery store or small creation with cupcakes or sheet cakes.

You may need a million dollars for an event but not so much for a moment.

Tuesday, May 29, 2012

so...planning 101

Once I received a phone call from someone, she said, girl, we are down here starving.  A birthday party that had run out of food. Invite list, I thought. I told the story to D trew who laughed at 6 mos...it was a moment.

take a bath and create a day or go to park. Write down your ideas in a short paragraph.

get organized
by a binder with pockets. then a wedding planner or use one online.

get to the 3
what is most important three things for your day. 

support team
this can be a professional wedding planner or a good friend.

choose your maid of honor or friend of honor
Find someone who supports you and your day.

planning week

Well, it is here, wedding season....peak of it, anyway. It is where romance meets ideas. This week I hope to help you plan your moment.  I am going share with my experience.

Sunday, May 27, 2012

red, white, and blue

the red, white, and blue.....

red dress with blue carnation boquet

blue with black ink

sword printed on the ailse runner

red and white bottom cake....sword topper

Tuesday, May 22, 2012


white inviation and sand border.......glue....sand to border...add gold luster dust

little white dress...light blue shoes....sun hat

sand dollars hang from the ceiling.....

two tier cake....little shells cake topper

creative spaces

A store....a small one...wine and cupcakes....find a small shop with 20 of closetest...decorate with small containers.....

Monday, May 21, 2012

save your dime

go to rentail store for a dress...save that dime for shoes


centeprieces...food base

minicupake in a ring box.....on a bed of flowers

berries in fruit glass....with a flower tied to the base of the glass

sprinkles...at the base with cookie flower

red, white, and white

it's almost memorial day...i will be sizzling with my son at six flags if it does not rain. i

summer fun week....

red with black ink

red dress wtih blue shoes, i found a great pair last week

star shape cupcakes.....with star shaped sprinkles.

Thursday, May 17, 2012

the moment-inhouseDate

thong covered in dried flowers

sheer dress with flower underwear

finger foods on fresh leafs..salad with flowers....burger in shapes of leaves

the dress
outside picnic in the yard

Wednesday, May 16, 2012


in my victorian mind, when i do fall in love. I know it will be bright as the sunshine.....

clear container with yellow ink

white dress with colorful scarf on head tied to the side..(yellowandorange)

photograph  of the sunrise....on a sheet cake with name and date

Monday, May 14, 2012

Save your dime

okay, this is challenge.....under $500.

white paper and stickers andbe creative with your wording.

take a simple white dress...go get some discount shoes.

rice krispy treats with fruit glazed...add fresh flowers on top

let them have cake...

I am cookie baking mode with my son. When i am stessed out, I love to cook cookies and bake cakes. I am wierd that way.

get a character cake pan from craft store with spray food coloring, you have somthing creative in no time.

you make them ahead of time. you can make the mini ones...little beads and frosting..that's it.

it is sweet...you can crumble cookies on them.

the diy


Centerpieces can be many things.......

Bird houses embelished by white beads.
Hats...filled with flowers
Boxes wrapped with gift boxed with grass

Think outside the box....find inspiration in your own back yard.

the love story

a 2 page story book

a rose bouquet with a ribbion from one of your date dresses

a cookie with your love story on it

Monday, April 23, 2012


get the kids in the family to paint post cards..then information on them...

art brushes with roses in the center tied with a bow. pink dress.

colorful creation that looks like one your invitation.

Heavy Metal

necklace with the place and date in beads

white dress with silver tussy

metal flowers in leather or pleather vases

one tier cake with a leather ribbion...a fobot on the table...www.iFobot.com...cute art work
that looks like a whimiscal robot

a journey

when you go to an art museum, it is not a like journey in the eyes of an artist. I love to look at the art as well as read stories of the process of the person. 

i always like to take that journey with a journal. i found some beautiful ones this week.

a pretty floral paper....

leather skirt...white shirt...leather shoes

in a mind eye's journal...handmade and beautiful 719 4319186or

sheet cake....leather binding border

the artful moment

i love art, this week i went to the Dogwood Festival where i looked and admired so much talent. i

be inspired by this moment.

painted denim dredss...paint yourself or get a art studentn

denim colored invitation

two tiereod cake with denim ribbions.....denim ribbion bow..use wire to make secure.

Friday, April 20, 2012

inhouse date

the honeymoon at home

recreate your honeymoon

travel photo on invite. a top and short skirt. heels. a meal inspired trip with movie that reminds you of the day.

Wednesday, April 18, 2012

at home wedding

living room..filled with clear containers..hanging..flowers
a sollist
a bride dressed in a short floral skirt and white shirt
a simple dinner...cupcakes

the beach

white invite...blue ink..

shorts, blue top...wearing a silver heart..give heart to groom

light meal, fruit...with graham crust

Sunday, April 15, 2012

going to the chapel

hand letter...

white skirt...sequin top

cake boxes to each guest

small tier cake..a beautiful song

Friday, April 13, 2012


cream invite with brown ink

popcorn base in roses

colorful poporn with rose bud gardland

white dress with bouquet

popcorn covered candy apples

Wednesday, April 11, 2012

candy apples

white invite with red ink

red candy apples....miniapples on sticks..rose petals in base

silver dress with red topiary of roses

candy apples covered in peanuts

Tuesday, April 10, 2012

inhouse date


love letter

blue dress

movie snacks...and blue cupcakes with angels

Monday, April 9, 2012

the cotton candy

pink invite

one room
cupcakes stations...with wine

couple comes in...bride with pink dress with cupcake container filled
with flowers

Thursday, April 5, 2012

breakfast in bed

cool idea for a wedding..

white pjs...white short pjs for bride
centerpiece...lemons in baksets
brunch meal
fresh flowers angel food cake

Wednesday, April 4, 2012

the sunrise

picture of the sunrise

picture of sunrise

two tier orange cake...with picture of couple as a topper

Monday, April 2, 2012

the basket

brown invite with black ink

dress with brown shoes...black hat

gift basket with wild flowers

basket weave one layer cake...with flowers on top

Sunday, April 1, 2012

inhouse Date

Easter season...inhouse date

invitation in basket that has your underwear

the date
an adult easter hunt with messages in the eggs

finger foods...turkey, cheese, wine...

bunny ears...black bra and pink sheer panties

Friday, March 30, 2012

inhouse Date

easter candlight...

bunny ears with invite

the date
a meal....reading inspiration reading

the outfit
black dress with bunny ears

Thursday, March 29, 2012

the fun house

pink with black ink

pink dress with ornage shoes

glass with oranges

two tier with ballons

clowns as flower girl and ring bearer

Thursday, March 22, 2012

inhouse Date

white with pink writing

jeans and pink shirt....blue high heels

movie....pink panther

snacks....flavore popcorn..cajun seasoning, mocha chocolate, mini bb q burgers

Wednesday, March 21, 2012


invitation...lace bow in invite

white dress with satin bow...umbrella...

cake two tier cake on pedestal...take the pestal...ballroom dress

sign in
t shirt with guests names

Tuesday, March 20, 2012


white green ink

white with green shoes....ivy bouquet

green fondant top tier...white bottom...green candy ring

crystals hanging in a half circle from the ceiling...up front

Monday, March 19, 2012


white with ivy...in invite

white dress with ivy...corsage.ivy in hair

ivy printed dress

white cake ivy topper

the marching band

today i went to st. patrick's day parade...i enjoyed the marching bands...

be inspired.

white with red ink...musical note on top

white dress...hat filled with flowers

kid drum with rose on top

two tier cake with musical notes...on side

marching band going down the aisle

Wednesday, March 14, 2012

inhouse date

shared history.....

a journal with note

white dress with black heels

cornish hen stuffed with various fruit and bread crumbs and green salad
lime cupcakes

exchange family history

and watch a fun rated g movie

Tuesday, March 13, 2012

the carriage

white with red ink

ballroom gown...with gold satin heels

dummy tier....with carriage favor on top.

carrige cookie table
clear containers with cookies dipped in gold

carriage ride
for a moment

Monday, March 12, 2012

chapel moment

white invite to the groom...with lipstick mark on envelope

white dress suit...pink carnations

small white cake with rose bud

chapel, dinner, and a moment for later.

Saturday, March 10, 2012

Diary of the Mad Bride

pink invite with creative writing. use the one from this book.

old fashion A line gown with white silver pumps

movie food....

sign in...a copy of the cover

sheet cake with a press release on it about your wedding.

inhouse date

white with black ink

movie theatre
take your computer. dvd.

flavored popcorn, spicy nuts, taco miniburgers

Thursday, March 8, 2012

bed and breakfast

white invite with yellow ink

A line dress...with tennis shoes

yellow colored eggs in wire baskets

french toast...with chocolate sauce

Wednesday, March 7, 2012

Father of the Bride

I love this movie, it is great with cheesecake and a pj's.

white invite with black ink

bridal look
dress with curly hair..cute pink tennis shoes.

two tier with fountain

cookie table in shape of tennis shoes

Monday, March 5, 2012

the cake moment

invititon....brown invite that smells like vanilla

two collumn
with fabric drape....in ivy topiaries...

white dress with pale pink shoes

mini cakes in fish takes as bottom...cotton cotton...on top..lollipop

guest table
basket.....cake eggs

cake in bird cage....

Thursday, March 1, 2012

inhouse date

thong with note

card game
seductive suggestions. make it with index cards.

open face sandwhiches, great dips, and pound cake

Wednesday, February 29, 2012

the wedding planner

white dress with brown ink

a short dress with brown pumps

a dummy tier with a plastic horse

one tier cake with dancer as a topper

Tuesday, February 28, 2012

soup and sandwhich

1930s old school

a simple letter on pretty paper

dress suit...with a boquet of pink carnations

sandwhiches on pretty cake tier. at the bottom petit fores. little pink
rose petals.

Monday, February 27, 2012

gone with the wind

white invite with green ink...velvet ribbion

velvet ballroom gown..rent...crown

little houses on dummy tiers

african dancers

white sheet cake with a photograph of the movie

andrew wyeth-A night sleeper

brown invitation

a brown skirt...white shirt...gold heels. red flower in hair

sign in
andrew wyeth- a night sleeper

two tier cake with a dog toy as a topperm

the moment
have your smooch...do tricks for entertainment

Sunday, February 26, 2012

inhouse date

fight night

white invite with leather ribbion

red boy shirts and crop top...red heels


subs, dipping sauces, and cupcakes

Wednesday, February 22, 2012


white invitation with a pink ribbion

white dress with green shoes...blue sto ne tiara

oversize wine glasses...ivy on the stems...grass inside the glass.

two tier square cake with a fountain....square of buttercream grass with a sugar rose

Tuesday, February 21, 2012


white with gpeen ink

moss with rose petal

white dress with green satin stash...ivy in a wooden tussy

white cake...sides green...with ivy as topper

Sunday, February 19, 2012

the thunderstorm

red dress with black ink

white dress with yellow pumps with little red hat

electrical balls on flower beds

oversize cake...white cake with heart red and yellow marble effect

Friday, February 17, 2012

cinnamon bun

white with pink icing

white tea length dress with pink shoes. little pink hat.

two tier cake with mini cinnamon bun as topper

Wednesday, February 15, 2012


white page with brown ink....ribbion around the invitation

white dress with brown shoes

mini brownie bites on a tray of flower petals

signature drink
vanilla base cocktail

two tier brownie cake

twitter alert

the story of m and m will be twitter page...

Tuesday, February 14, 2012


the man knocks on the door,and she opens it. in front of her eyes he dissappears


Eyes locked as you to go studio, a face from the past. m$and$m...looks down with a shy smile and waves.

Monday, February 13, 2012

peace out loves....love,peace, and soul for all

peace out...support it...in the dream...a dollar for the mlkjr center

redcross...there is love in the blood

support your local redcross.

gotta register-mark-hotatlanta


keep the sexxy in the white house

it is rock the vote time...obama vs. newt...
obama...keep sexxy in the white house..wink

the story m$and$m-the story...what are we going do about that girl

in an empty office

what you are going to do about that girl? the voice called out.
i got a plan...
what is it?
online relationship

m$and$M-the story....

what we are going to do..

the whispers continued in the condo.

it looks like sucide. i know because we force her to do. we drugged her, so it couldh look that way. lord, have mercy, the girl screamed.

shut the hell up...

it was a joke, man, the joke is on us.

music for m$and$m

A diva leaves with a better man, who knows how to handle it. Too Sexy for words, they love from above.
Inside a place and space, they love outside as the moon shines on their bodies.
She arches her back for him, sex tunes comes out from head.

Back in the condo....
Sex sounds all over the place, it low for the space.

voices, what are we are going to do? i dont, know, i will figure it out.

hi hello out there...we ballin while we crawlin

So today is v day, last minute. i want you to go out...take flowers and place on the door. then inside cover your table with petals. place petals with music in bathroom. floral ball and hang from ceiling. read love stories to each other.

m $and$m walks into the room...do i know you...story

no i don't know you. great, she said at a party.

you cannot break preemie mommy honey

yeah...work it out

happy valentine day

i love this day. this is a great day for love with my cute cookie.

Wednesday, February 1, 2012

the v day ideas

Love is in the air.....

openspace and fill it throughtout the day with things you love

go see the stars.....with a basket

make a drive through movie...dvd player....and some music and snacks

Monday, January 30, 2012


It is a great word. An essential componet to a relationship.

red off shoulder dress...A line

words from favorite romance novel...rated G for everyone.

mini cupcakes with your favorite flower.

sign in
favorite romance novel

Wednesday, January 25, 2012


the family affair

have your girlfriends with snacks

have your inlaws to help try the tasting

get tips in a budget at sunday meal

Tuesday, January 24, 2012



An invitation is a beauitful keepsake. It can be affordable.

Write a letter style invite to your guests.

do it yourself


Monday, January 23, 2012


red inivtation with black ink

white dress...with cherry printed ribbion around the bouquet

1950s burgers and fries..play around with the flavors

a little pie on a pretty pedestal

two round tiers...white...with mini cherry pie on top

Saturday, January 21, 2012

lollipop theme

the kid in all of us....

white with pink writing

cookie lollipops in bud vase

savory and sweet cupcakes

white dress with pink shoes

Thursday, January 19, 2012


white with brownr

white A line with brown sash

bud vase with a rose on a box of chocolate

hershey kisses in clear containers stacked with a cupcake on top


the flowers

if you do the flowers, keep it the simple.

front of the ceremony
big plants fill with the greenery

filled with ivy on two pedestals

for the bride
single flowers
glass flowers

shopping bags filled with flowers
candy in clear containers

Tuesday, January 17, 2012


A rose is a symbol of love, it is not my favorite flower, i am more a peony or carnation kind of girl.

a simple white business card with invite information

red dress with silver shoes

rose shaped sheet cake

snow globe with a silk rose inside

Thursday, January 12, 2012

black love

martin luther king jr countdown. great love. mlkjr and coretta scott...

white invitation with blue ink

tea length white dress with magnolia bloom

red roses....on a gold pedestal

white jewelery box with gold dots of frosting.....pearl ring as a topper

find your favorite historial love letter and read it each other at the

Wednesday, January 11, 2012


cake time

get a tip set
it will make your life more easier

do a trial run
a month before you should make a smaller version of your cake

they free cake instructions

sheet cake
sheet cakes will make life easier.

Monday, January 9, 2012

the plan

Find the most romantic spot in your area. Then take a notebook, and write a full page how you want your day.
The big things:the dress, how many people, formality, and the cake.

the moment

the royal moment

cookie in shape of a crown with time and date

lavender dress with silver heels

little appetizers....lobster bisque, crusty bread, candied bacon, champagne cupcakes

Thursday, January 5, 2012

it's the 1980s...

i love the 1980s from the ripped jeans to the bow around my hair.

white with neon writing

dress suit with hat....pearl choker

rubik cube....spray paint white.....oversize wine glass in a sea of white wedding flowers...

the sweetheart moment

I have a sweet tooth, even though i am gradually trying to give it up. cold and chocolate, you can't beat it.

white invite with brown writing.....gold dots of paint around the border. get good girlfriends.

brown baskets. red candy apples in the center.then surrond with flowers.

heart shape cookies with broken sweet heart candies on the top

on the guest table
take sweet heart candy place one in a little cone like a fortune cookie

Tuesday, January 3, 2012

the prom reception

Confession: I never went my prom...i have been wearing party dresses to church.yeah....

white with pink writing.

white candies in a vase...with pink rose

oversize cupcake...that looks like a dress

the new year

love is journey when you decide to take it. So i think it a great for you to incoporate that into your big day.

white with black ink

short history of the relationship, keep it rated g for everyone.

photographs of the couple in clear frames.

a timeline of your relationship

two tier with your engamgent picture in frame as a topper.